Dear Lauren, I’ve been hanging out with this guy for 4 months. I know it doesn’t seem like much to you; after all, you’re already hanging out, you’re already intimate, all you want is to make it official and take the fun to the next level! He’s busy, he’s young, and he wants to have fun without the “drama that relationships inevitably bring.” (Do I know these guys or what?He’s a fashion designer and writer so he’s always busy. -Cerise Hey Cerise, He didn’t answer you because an answer might mess with the status quo and he likes things the way they are now. ;-) At this time, he doesn’t have a lot to give to a partner.I know you recently did a post on dating someone making less money/having more time, and I really enjoyed it.But I also think some of us have an entirely different problem where we date someone who is equally ambitious and busy.Putting the man in front of your feelings and needs may seem like the right thing to do at the beginning of a relationship (hey, don’t we all have irrational fears that aren’t attractive? Just because you don’t want to feel insecure, needy, uncomfortable and scared, doesn’t mean that you aren’t feeling that way.And chances are—if you feel these feelings in your budding relationship, he can sense them.Sometimes horror stories about them can make for fun discussion, but don't ever bring your ex into the conversation if it's not called for.
Our resumes mirror each other’s in a lot of ways, and I can’t help but feel the tension sometimes.
I’m guessing there are other readers out there that feel this way, especially when both people are working in the same field, firm, company, etc.
How do we deal with this competitive nature so that it doesn’t destruct an otherwise perfectly good relationship?
” Tell Him Exactly How You Feel Inside You don’t have to ask about his feelings because that might feel invasive to him, but you can and should tell him about yours.
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If you guys have a great time, you're both left wanting more." —Greg G." /"Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there.